• Not sure if friend is gay or not?

    He sure sounds like a good friend to have. The question you have to ask yourself is; is your friendship worth the risk of asking if nature made him the same as you. In your shoes, I'd pick the right time and get round to talking about sex and what turns you on, You have age on your side and can still get away with feeling confused about your... show more
    He sure sounds like a good friend to have. The question you have to ask yourself is; is your friendship worth the risk of asking if nature made him the same as you. In your shoes, I'd pick the right time and get round to talking about sex and what turns you on, You have age on your side and can still get away with feeling confused about your sexuality (even if you are not). Being bi can, in reality, be confusing because it is not always a 50/50 attraction to the genders. As a gay guy I can see some of his behaviour is ambiguous, but I'd recommend either telling him outright and be damned, or letting it run until you can get him to open up about what you are dying to know. Meanwhile, enjoy, because special friendships are special.
    5 answers · Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered · 9 months ago
  • Is it okay for a 34 year old gay man to date a 19 year old?

    Wrong? If some people had their way, it would be wrong to breath the same air as them. Wrong refers to anything that is not adult, consenting or mutual. Safe or not also verges on wrong, but then we are all responsible for our actions and consequences and in a free world where those of us lucky enough to have liberty and freedom, personal choices... show more
    Wrong? If some people had their way, it would be wrong to breath the same air as them. Wrong refers to anything that is not adult, consenting or mutual. Safe or not also verges on wrong, but then we are all responsible for our actions and consequences and in a free world where those of us lucky enough to have liberty and freedom, personal choices are down to us and not others. Age is just a number and the only things to consider is can you both handle each other's different viewpoint on life and what values and principles you have that could grate with what you might have? Only the pair of you need permission from each other and as far as meeting parents, maybe wait until it mutually feels more like a tangible and meaningful relationship. Good luck.
    19 answers · Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered · 9 months ago
  • Is it safe to have anal sex?

    Yes, it is perfectly safe, as long as you follow common sense and specific guidelines. Rather than detail it here, search Google for advice (search anal sex). Remember, it should always be adult, consenting and mutual and always, safe (condom). There's a lot of nonsense and myth about anal sex, usually related to the disgust factor that good... show more
    Yes, it is perfectly safe, as long as you follow common sense and specific guidelines. Rather than detail it here, search Google for advice (search anal sex). Remember, it should always be adult, consenting and mutual and always, safe (condom). There's a lot of nonsense and myth about anal sex, usually related to the disgust factor that good personal hygiene can negate.
    14 answers · Gender Studies · 9 months ago
  • Does anyone else think that gender is unnecessary?

    I think society is too hung up on male and female and nothing more. Visually we identify (or assume) others gender by how they look and act. Society needs to have a set of unspoken rules and being male or female seems to fit those rules. But then society also expects everyone to be heterosexual and clearly nature never intended that. As a society we... show more
    I think society is too hung up on male and female and nothing more. Visually we identify (or assume) others gender by how they look and act. Society needs to have a set of unspoken rules and being male or female seems to fit those rules. But then society also expects everyone to be heterosexual and clearly nature never intended that. As a society we are also still ignorant about how nature decides what is innate. We know gender is assigned during early pregnancy, but it also requires various other factors to happen if the child can easily relate to the gender they are born. In an ideal world, one we may never see in the timeframe of human existence, respect and value towards humanity and our unique individuality should matter more than what gender we identify with or who we might find sexually.emotionally appealing. But on a personal level, it is important for any individual to have the right to identify with what their instincts are telling them, without judgement or harassment from others.
    8 answers · Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered · 9 months ago
  • I don't like gay men, do you ?

    it's okay to feel uncomfortable about gay people, but for your own credibility you might like to get it into proper perspective. Being born straight, gay will feel very unnatural to your own sexual instincts. Forgetting any homophobia or prejudice that you may have inherited from your peers or parents, no one chooses their sexuality because it... show more
    it's okay to feel uncomfortable about gay people, but for your own credibility you might like to get it into proper perspective. Being born straight, gay will feel very unnatural to your own sexual instincts. Forgetting any homophobia or prejudice that you may have inherited from your peers or parents, no one chooses their sexuality because it is set before we are born. Those born gay will have similar uncomfortable feelings about heterosexual sex, because for them personally, it just isn't natural. Bear in mind also that some gay people may act differently because finding like minded people is not as easy as a guy finding a girl or visa versa. There are also many myths about homosexuality that drive hate and prejudice, when in reality, most gay people are no different to anyone else, apart from what sexually attracts them. You don't have to like anyone, but being friendly and open minded about life can make you wiser and more accepting of diversity in this enlightening era. If you make it clear your are straight, the majority of gay people will respect that. They can be your friends without wanting to get into your pants!
    33 answers · Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered · 9 months ago
  • Turning away from a gay lifestyle to start a family?

    Maybe you can 'turn away' from a certain lifestyle, but you cannot change what is innate about your sexuality. Now only you know what that is and if you are sexually attracted to women as well, then likely you are bisexual. That brings positives and negatives, the biggest negative is when, years down the line, the other aspect of your... show more
    Maybe you can 'turn away' from a certain lifestyle, but you cannot change what is innate about your sexuality. Now only you know what that is and if you are sexually attracted to women as well, then likely you are bisexual. That brings positives and negatives, the biggest negative is when, years down the line, the other aspect of your sexuality, the gay one, could surface and bring you desires you cannot ignore. If you are then married with kids of your own, then could that impact on your family's security? On the other hand, there are many gay guys desperately seeking a one to one long term relationship. But all relationships are hard work whether they are gay or straight ones. We have to adapt, compromise and tolerate many aspects of another person's whims and funny ways. And finding a partner who will love and respect us as we would them is like looking for a needle in a haystack. The answer is to get out and about and socialise in all sorts of ways, then you'll meet many people and when you least expect it, the right person will come along. You'll know it when it happens, but please don't fall into the trap of denying what your sexual/emotional instincts tell you. If you do, you'll be living a lie that could come back to haunt you. Best of luck and be safe.
    20 answers · Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered · 9 months ago
  • Agree or disagree: some people just have to accept being losers?

    That suggests that some people won't make anything of their life because they accept it's never going to happen. We all lose in life and by doing so, we learn. Winning is about what we learn from taking part and unless we are born with a disability that stops us doing what we want (and some disabled people can teach us all about achieving... show more
    That suggests that some people won't make anything of their life because they accept it's never going to happen. We all lose in life and by doing so, we learn. Winning is about what we learn from taking part and unless we are born with a disability that stops us doing what we want (and some disabled people can teach us all about achieving the impossible) we all have the ability to get closer to our dreams, as long as they are realistic and we stay motivated and focused. The born losers in life are those who never learn from their mistakes, or think the world owes them a life when life is what you make it. I'd suggest the losers in life are those who haven't a clue about the ways of nature of the amazing diversity of human life. Ignorance is bliss to them and in their apparent bliss, they lose so much colour in their life.
    10 answers · Polls & Surveys · 9 months ago
  • How to stop being gay?

    I'm not so sure you are gay. At 17 you are likely in the latter stages of puberty. Your high voice might still change and besides, is no indication of sexuality. Right now, your hormones might be playing games with what you find sexually appealing. Most gay people are aware of their sexual instincts as puberty develops, but it can be a confusing... show more
    I'm not so sure you are gay. At 17 you are likely in the latter stages of puberty. Your high voice might still change and besides, is no indication of sexuality. Right now, your hormones might be playing games with what you find sexually appealing. Most gay people are aware of their sexual instincts as puberty develops, but it can be a confusing time because puberty can suggest things to you that are only passing sensations. Some guys experiment and that's fine as long as they remain safe and sensible. A gay guy born 100% gay will be sure of his sexuality by the time he reaches 18. If there is any doubt, it might be because he was born bisexual, or his sexual instincts remain unclear or confusing. Some people have no sexual desires or identify with any sexual orientation. I suggest you go with the flow and see where it takes you. But do not deny what your instincts are telling you and give puberty a chance to pass before you start hanging labels on yourself or panic about the way nature made you. If you need advice, Google can provide many sites of information and support.
    13 answers · Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered · 9 months ago
  • A thousand in a bowl, one is poisoned to cause death in 5 seconds, would you eat one?

    The way I see it, there's more chance of dying or being hurt outside that bowl of M&M's. No I wouldn't tempt fate if I knew there was such a close risk, simply because I'd be bringing that risk closer by eating one. On the other hand, I'd feel safe mixing with 1000 Muslim people, assuming you're implying... show more
    The way I see it, there's more chance of dying or being hurt outside that bowl of M&M's. No I wouldn't tempt fate if I knew there was such a close risk, simply because I'd be bringing that risk closer by eating one. On the other hand, I'd feel safe mixing with 1000 Muslim people, assuming you're implying terrorists/fanatics are as such. This travel ban has been badly thought out and does nothing to identify all the people in the USA intent on doing harm to others. Talk about painting everyone with the same brush. Shameful.
    10 answers · Law & Ethics · 2 years ago
  • Does he really love me?? Or is he just wasting my time?

    I doubt love has anything to do with it. You're two guys who have found something attractive in each other, The rest is a mixture of wishful thinking and you wanting a leg over, regardless of the message he is trying to send you. Too heavy too quick shouts from what you share here and maybe, your obsession with getting into his pants is doing... show more
    I doubt love has anything to do with it. You're two guys who have found something attractive in each other, The rest is a mixture of wishful thinking and you wanting a leg over, regardless of the message he is trying to send you. Too heavy too quick shouts from what you share here and maybe, your obsession with getting into his pants is doing you no favours. You have options and if you pursue this friendship for more than what it is now, remember that the realities of long distant relationships is they are bl00dy hard work, much harder than having one more local to you. But then, like the rest of us, you have to learn about the ups and downs of life, of sex and of love, because love means mutual respect and an awful lot of giving, adapting and compromising. Clearly you're not ready for that, but you could be, if sex became the cherry on the cake from a beautiful relationship. Will it be with him, or another guy? Only you and him can decide. Stay safe. Google safe gay sex and follow it. It's important. Good luck.
    7 answers · Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered · 2 years ago
  • What do you think?

    I think you are hiding from the real you. Underneath that narcissus of a guy is likely someone amazing. All this priming and feather cleaning is all very nice, because we should all make the best of ourselves. You seem to be taking it much further, kind of a disguise from what your innate sexual instincts are telling you: that sexually, guys do it... show more
    I think you are hiding from the real you. Underneath that narcissus of a guy is likely someone amazing. All this priming and feather cleaning is all very nice, because we should all make the best of ourselves. You seem to be taking it much further, kind of a disguise from what your innate sexual instincts are telling you: that sexually, guys do it for you and women don't. On that basis, gay rather than bi would fit, but it would be wrong for me or anyone to label you. Only you can do that because only you know what feels right. It certainly isn't right for you and your future liberty and freedom to 'pretend' that you're straight. We all need women in our lives and if we're gay, it's all platonic and mutually understood. If you don't need sex, then fine. But don't you also need male intimacy, closeness and bonding? Preen away, but let that awesome guy come to the surface so that the guys who might sweep you off your feet can see the man behind the mask. Prada indeed!!
    2 answers · Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered · 2 years ago
  • Can someone tell me if this is serious or not?

    This sounds like a tummy upset, maybe a bit of food poisoning, or an imbalance of your gut bacteria (the good stuff that breaks down food to nourish your body). The most concerning is the fatigue, which may be only due to you losing fluid in your trips to the loo (especially if it's runny). I suggest that you increase your daily intake of fluid.... show more
    This sounds like a tummy upset, maybe a bit of food poisoning, or an imbalance of your gut bacteria (the good stuff that breaks down food to nourish your body). The most concerning is the fatigue, which may be only due to you losing fluid in your trips to the loo (especially if it's runny). I suggest that you increase your daily intake of fluid. Water is best, not excessively, but around 2 to 4 litres during your waking hours. Be sure you sleep well and eat plenty of different coloured vegetables, some carbohydrate and some protein. Avoid lots of red meat and greasy food. ideally you should see your doctor and I'd recommend that if it persists after a week. Smoking isn't a good habit to form because it can impact on your general health, but in this case I doubt it is related to your current problem. If on the other hand you are active in sport or the gym, maybe you have strained a muscle in your tummy. Follow the previous advice and lay of.straining your tummy muscles, without stopping sensible activity..
    3 answers · Men's Health · 2 years ago
  • What would you do if I called you a f a g on the streets?

    If you did that in my country, you'd be breaking the law. I'd confront you and ask you to explain yourself, then remind you in front of others what an ignorant **** you were. Whatever, you wouldn't do it again after I'd finished with you, and that's without violence..
    If you did that in my country, you'd be breaking the law. I'd confront you and ask you to explain yourself, then remind you in front of others what an ignorant **** you were. Whatever, you wouldn't do it again after I'd finished with you, and that's without violence..
    9 answers · Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered · 2 years ago
  • LGBT HELP: I am so depressed it's hurting me physically...is there any hope for America? Or The world...?

    Wow. You sure have the downers don't you? I think you need to get things into perspective. Start with you and your body and frame of mind. Seeing ;life as an optimist will drive you on, like your cup is half full not half empty. YOU can do something about that and as you do, others might treat you differently. Sure they might not, but you're... show more
    Wow. You sure have the downers don't you? I think you need to get things into perspective. Start with you and your body and frame of mind. Seeing ;life as an optimist will drive you on, like your cup is half full not half empty. YOU can do something about that and as you do, others might treat you differently. Sure they might not, but you're not the only gay guy in the world, or country, or town and very likely, your own local community. The world is changing, like it has been for centuries. Nothing stays the same for long and that is part of life's challenges. As humans we have to adapt and compromise, but we don't have to lower the values we choose to live by. Clubs and other LGBT places are not just about sex, which itself is not scary if you stay focused on your own limits, stay safe (condoms and lube) and you can use the word thanks, but no thanks. No point in worrying about the bigger picture that you have no control over, so control what is within your power to do so and those who don't like it can go do one. you'll get more respect by being the person you really are, rather than the worry guts you are now. The end of the world is a long way off, outside your lifetime, so make the most of the amazing life you have been given and show the world what a truly amazing guy you are. Check out this website about being gay, then google safe gay sex, for when a guy comes along you can't keep your hands off. Good luck, it's not as bad as you paint. http://bgiok.org.uk
    4 answers · Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered · 2 years ago
  • Asking boy if he likes me?

    Are you male or female? You don't say, but generally if YOU re interested in someone who MIGHT be interested in you, then you say hi and then chat, hang about together and find out more about each other. Then, if there is some chemistry, either just sexual or emotional also, that's the time to share each other's feelings. Being upfront... show more
    Are you male or female? You don't say, but generally if YOU re interested in someone who MIGHT be interested in you, then you say hi and then chat, hang about together and find out more about each other. Then, if there is some chemistry, either just sexual or emotional also, that's the time to share each other's feelings. Being upfront straight away can sometimes work, but it risks scaring the other person away if they get the wrong end of your intentions. If you are male and gay, then the same advice applies, but eye contact, body language and gut instinct can play a part in identifying if another guy finds you attractive. Again, whether you are gay or not and you might become sexually active, wise up on safe sex. Google: safe sex or safe gay sex, whichever applies to you. Then follow the guidelines. IT'S IMPORTANT. Good luck.
    4 answers · Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered · 2 years ago
  • I'm a Christian, and I might be bisexual?

    That word 'sin' is a man made word. What is written in the bible and any other religious book was written by man, yonks ago when man knew a lot less than he does today (although one has to argue if man is the intelligent creature he likes to take credit for). Religion and belief should be a personal choice and most religions will claim that... show more
    That word 'sin' is a man made word. What is written in the bible and any other religious book was written by man, yonks ago when man knew a lot less than he does today (although one has to argue if man is the intelligent creature he likes to take credit for). Religion and belief should be a personal choice and most religions will claim that God make all things. I'm of the mind that nature is the power behind creation and certainly, sexuality and gender and all the complexities involved are decided by nature well before we are born. So the sin issue can't apply, because one can only be sinful for doing wrong. And that's another word that needs debate, because clearly nature doesn't know the difference between right and wrong, because again, they are man made ideologies. Sure it's wrong when sex is not mutual, consenting or adult, but then myths created by religion just feed the idea that homosexuality is wrong, only because myth feeds ignorance and supports their own imposed belief system. No disrespect toy our own beliefs, but if nature made you gay, then nature deserves you to stand up for yourself and tell others to get a life, or go do one, because God said let him who is without sin cast the first stone. Sounds like your lot are throwing stones thinking they are in the clear. Nudge their conscience and remind them of their religion. Check out this website, about being gay. http://www.bgiok.org.uk
    4 answers · Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered · 2 years ago
  • Does it take a certain amount of sky-high cowardice to hide behind a Yahoo Answers account, without your face showing, or your name?

    Best answer: It's equally common sense not to identify yourself to all and sundry. But Yahoo has issues with replacing the avatar, hence my photo no longer appears despite my continuing efforts. I certainly don't accept that it's cowardice for protecting one's identity, although a name and an image, real or not is better than nothing.... show more
    Best answer: It's equally common sense not to identify yourself to all and sundry. But Yahoo has issues with replacing the avatar, hence my photo no longer appears despite my continuing efforts. I certainly don't accept that it's cowardice for protecting one's identity, although a name and an image, real or not is better than nothing. But then I have nothing to hide, hence my answering history is public.
    1 answer · Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered · 2 years ago
  • Help with puberty for 15 male?

    Likely you are smack in the middle of puberty and yes, for the majority of young guys like yourself, it can play havoc with what you thought you knew, felt and sensed. Fortunately, it will all pass as you get closer to 18 and whatever nature decided for your sexuality, that too will be clearly realised for most. Puberty can bring sexual confusion... show more
    Likely you are smack in the middle of puberty and yes, for the majority of young guys like yourself, it can play havoc with what you thought you knew, felt and sensed. Fortunately, it will all pass as you get closer to 18 and whatever nature decided for your sexuality, that too will be clearly realised for most. Puberty can bring sexual confusion and strange sexual urges, certainly right now your body is producing loads of testosterone, the male hormone that makes you horny and starts the process of turning the boy into a man. My advice is go with the flow, follow what feels right, be extra nice to your mum (because likely you are more of a handful than you realise, thanks to puberty) and use common sense in whatever you get up to. Soon you'll be an adult and if you become sexually active before then (or for when that time comes), wise up on safe sex. Google it, safe sex, or if you think it will apply to you, safe gay sex. Hang in there. Further advice available from chazzeee@hotmail.com No strings or agenda.
    5 answers · Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered · 2 years ago
  • Do you think gay marriage should become illegal again?

    No. This isn't America. Here in the UK we enjoy a slowly enlightened society and government, but we shouldn't become complacent. If one day we get our own Donald Trump, then those of us in a legal partnership might have need to worry. Fortunately, we have the law on our side and it takes legislation to change the law. Enjoy and be safe show more
    No. This isn't America. Here in the UK we enjoy a slowly enlightened society and government, but we shouldn't become complacent. If one day we get our own Donald Trump, then those of us in a legal partnership might have need to worry. Fortunately, we have the law on our side and it takes legislation to change the law. Enjoy and be safe
    6 answers · Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered · 2 years ago
  • Why would he be checking me out?

    Best answer: The gym is often the place when gay guys can eyeball other guys, whether they are gay or not. No different t guys ogling girls at the same place. I think it's time you started to chat to this guy. Sure you might 'feel' fat and/or be less than confident about yourself, but let me tell you, beauty is always in the eye of the... show more
    Best answer: The gym is often the place when gay guys can eyeball other guys, whether they are gay or not. No different t guys ogling girls at the same place. I think it's time you started to chat to this guy. Sure you might 'feel' fat and/or be less than confident about yourself, but let me tell you, beauty is always in the eye of the beholder and whether he likes you or not, don't bugger up a potential opportunity for friendship just because you think you're not good enough. Chances are you haven't a clue how amazing you are. This guy might think you're worth getting to know. Conversation is easy, just say hi, we seem to always be here at the same time then chat about workouts, health, or ask him to show you some weight lifts etc. Swap names and then every day it will be easier to chat. Then who knows! Good luck.
    2 answers · Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered · 2 years ago