• Was I right to not attend my grandson's wedding?

    Only you can know why you chose not to attend your Grandson's wedding and so you decide if this choice sits comfortably with you. If you are completely at peace with your choice, no need to question the process further. However, if you are uncomfortable or not quite at peace with your decision, you need to weigh up the rightness or wrongness... show more
    Only you can know why you chose not to attend your Grandson's wedding and so you decide if this choice sits comfortably with you. If you are completely at peace with your choice, no need to question the process further. However, if you are uncomfortable or not quite at peace with your decision, you need to weigh up the rightness or wrongness of the process.
    11 answers · Etiquette · 6 hours ago
  • Why so many people relapse depression. Couldn’t they have seen signs and prevented it?

    Depression can be all consuming and when its darkness descends, it can be powerful and dominating. The individual may believe they have the strength to fight their demons, in particular if they are on medication and/or undergoing therapy, but sometimes the Black Dog (as Winston Churchill described his depression) can bite fiercely and quickly, and... show more
    Depression can be all consuming and when its darkness descends, it can be powerful and dominating. The individual may believe they have the strength to fight their demons, in particular if they are on medication and/or undergoing therapy, but sometimes the Black Dog (as Winston Churchill described his depression) can bite fiercely and quickly, and bring you down.
    9 answers · Mental Health · 8 hours ago
  • Strangers, why do you make fun of/call other strangers ugly in regards to their face/looks in which they have no control over?

    Some people choose to judge others as a way of making themselves feel superior, masking their own insecurities. Rather than focus on themselves, they externalize and find a target they can criticize and ridicule. There is no consideration of how the other person may feel about their attitudes and behavior, as that person is of no regard or... show more
    Some people choose to judge others as a way of making themselves feel superior, masking their own insecurities. Rather than focus on themselves, they externalize and find a target they can criticize and ridicule. There is no consideration of how the other person may feel about their attitudes and behavior, as that person is of no regard or consequence from their perspective.
    9 answers · Etiquette · 11 hours ago
  • How can i stay safe at train station as a middle aged woman all alone..?

    Stay in close proximity to the CCTV and as much as possible, be physically near other commuters. Also, appear confident and hold your head high. The less vulnerable you appear, the less likely you will approached.
    Stay in close proximity to the CCTV and as much as possible, be physically near other commuters. Also, appear confident and hold your head high. The less vulnerable you appear, the less likely you will approached.
    9 answers · Etiquette · 13 hours ago
  • Why did this selfish mother allow her toddler son to high pitch scream at the mall & not remove it?

    There can be no definitive answer without knowing the context in which the child was crying/screaming and the history of this child's behavior. Perhaps, in that moment, the mother was beyond emotionally tired and simply had not energy to remove her child from the shopping mall? Perhaps the mother was hoping her child would calm down? Perhaps... show more
    There can be no definitive answer without knowing the context in which the child was crying/screaming and the history of this child's behavior. Perhaps, in that moment, the mother was beyond emotionally tired and simply had not energy to remove her child from the shopping mall? Perhaps the mother was hoping her child would calm down? Perhaps the mother did not care? Perhaps the child has a behavioral issue and the mother was doing - in her mind - the best possible under the circumstances? Without knowing the facts, you can only speculate.
    6 answers · Etiquette · 14 hours ago
  • So I went to a party at the weekend?

    Ultimately, you need to decide where you want to put your emotional attention. How much focus do you want to give this woman when clearly you do not like her attitude?
    Ultimately, you need to decide where you want to put your emotional attention. How much focus do you want to give this woman when clearly you do not like her attitude?
    5 answers · Etiquette · 16 hours ago
  • Is it rude to apologize to a friend/acquaintance who is giving you the silent treatment?

    Best answer: This will depend on the context of the situation underlying the reason why one person is not speaking to another person. Only the people involved can know what has happened and there may be different opinions about whether an apology is necessary. Some people would feel an apology was justified, others not so much.
    Best answer: This will depend on the context of the situation underlying the reason why one person is not speaking to another person. Only the people involved can know what has happened and there may be different opinions about whether an apology is necessary. Some people would feel an apology was justified, others not so much.
    6 answers · Etiquette · 17 hours ago
  • What is the dating ettiquette for this? I have a crush on my optometrist. Any way I can get him to ask me out or atleast see if he's single?

    Legally, there would not be a violation of ethics for the Optometrist to have a relationship with you so ask the question, and see what happens.
    Legally, there would not be a violation of ethics for the Optometrist to have a relationship with you so ask the question, and see what happens.
    9 answers · Etiquette · 19 hours ago
  • Whats the etiquette if you meet apartmer or friend of a friend & it’s clear you wont get along & conversation is awkward ?

    If the awkwardness is obvious, best you can do is engage in conversation with your friend. If he/she feel it necessary, they can bring the third party into the discussion.
    If the awkwardness is obvious, best you can do is engage in conversation with your friend. If he/she feel it necessary, they can bring the third party into the discussion.
    5 answers · Etiquette · 20 hours ago
  • My boyfriend's little sister flour bombed me and both his dads condoned it, wtf?

    Given your surprise at this situation, have a conversation with your boyfriend and suggest another get together with his family. Emphasize that you want to get to them and likewise, you want them to get to know you. Ask your boyfriend for support and be open to his family's beliefs, even if you do not agree with or understand them. show more
    Given your surprise at this situation, have a conversation with your boyfriend and suggest another get together with his family. Emphasize that you want to get to them and likewise, you want them to get to know you. Ask your boyfriend for support and be open to his family's beliefs, even if you do not agree with or understand them.
    17 answers · Etiquette · 20 hours ago
  • Do you talk about the social media posts that your friends post to them, or is that awkward? Why?

    Talking about social media posts is personal choice. Some conversations would be easy going and fun, and some may be awkward depending on the context of the post and the dynamic between the relevant friends. There is no one way this conversation may or may not pan out.
    Talking about social media posts is personal choice. Some conversations would be easy going and fun, and some may be awkward depending on the context of the post and the dynamic between the relevant friends. There is no one way this conversation may or may not pan out.
    1 answer · Sociology · 20 hours ago
  • How can i not lose my temper and raise my voice when a coffee cafe server doesnt listen to my order?

    Losing or not losing your temper all comes down to choice. While your frustration is understandable, losing your patience is not the only outcome that can occur from this situation. If you want a different result, make a different choice.
    Losing or not losing your temper all comes down to choice. While your frustration is understandable, losing your patience is not the only outcome that can occur from this situation. If you want a different result, make a different choice.
    13 answers · Etiquette · 21 hours ago
  • How to deal with people sharing your personal information?

    There is no obligation for you to accept the behavior of other people, so speak up and ask others to respect your wishes and not discuss your mother and her passing. Be assertive, not aggressive, and ask for the personal space and time to share the news about your mother at your own pace.
    There is no obligation for you to accept the behavior of other people, so speak up and ask others to respect your wishes and not discuss your mother and her passing. Be assertive, not aggressive, and ask for the personal space and time to share the news about your mother at your own pace.
    5 answers · Etiquette · 23 hours ago
  • Do you have to shake hands if someone has a hook hand?

    No obligation to shake anyone's hand, all comes down to personal choice.
    No obligation to shake anyone's hand, all comes down to personal choice.
    8 answers · Etiquette · 24 hours ago
  • Why was my friend being sarcastic and making me feel self conscious?

    Given your confusion over your friend's attitude and behavior, have a conversation with her and get clarification, to better understand her perspective. Remember, you cannot control or change other people, but you are completely responsible for your own reactions so also look at why you felt self-conscious in this situation. Does this friend... show more
    Given your confusion over your friend's attitude and behavior, have a conversation with her and get clarification, to better understand her perspective. Remember, you cannot control or change other people, but you are completely responsible for your own reactions so also look at why you felt self-conscious in this situation. Does this friend trigger a particular response in you? Have the conversation. The more you know, the more you can do.
    4 answers · Etiquette · 1 day ago
  • What is a coward?

    Walking away from a coward does not suggest someone is a coward, this can indicate great strength of character and resilience. It is also possible to speak up for oneself without engaging in a physical altercation.
    Walking away from a coward does not suggest someone is a coward, this can indicate great strength of character and resilience. It is also possible to speak up for oneself without engaging in a physical altercation.
    6 answers · Mental Health · 1 day ago
  • Why is this younger colleague who quotes “spreading love” on her IG profile so rude and ignores me?

    The only way you can know why this person is behaving in this manner towards you is to ask her for clarification, to help you better understand her attitude. Perhaps she does not feel comfortable around you, perhaps she does not connect with or she simply may not like you. Ask the question and then you know.
    The only way you can know why this person is behaving in this manner towards you is to ask her for clarification, to help you better understand her attitude. Perhaps she does not feel comfortable around you, perhaps she does not connect with or she simply may not like you. Ask the question and then you know.
    6 answers · Etiquette · 2 days ago
  • Are shirts that are chequered pattern ok to wear?

    Clothing comes down to personal choice and what is comfortable for the individual. If a woman chooses to wear a chequered pattern shirt, that decision is totally valid for her and how she wishes to present herself to the world.
    Clothing comes down to personal choice and what is comfortable for the individual. If a woman chooses to wear a chequered pattern shirt, that decision is totally valid for her and how she wishes to present herself to the world.
    13 answers · Fashion & Accessories · 2 days ago
  • She listen to me if I say I don’t like what she’s doing?

    Look at your role in this situation, you are telling your girlfriend to stop contact with this person because you do not like him. Be open to looking at why you do not like this person. Is is possible your own insecurities are manifesting in this behavior? Is it possible you have trust issues on some level? Males and females can have a... show more
    Look at your role in this situation, you are telling your girlfriend to stop contact with this person because you do not like him. Be open to looking at why you do not like this person. Is is possible your own insecurities are manifesting in this behavior? Is it possible you have trust issues on some level? Males and females can have a friendship without any romantic/sexual overtones and given you have been with your girlfriend for more than a year, this would indicate your girlfriend is happy with you and your relationship. You have also said your girlfriend 'should' listen to you, but this does not allow for open communication and both of you being assertive in your decision-making. If the situation was reversed, how would you feel being told what to do by your girlfriend? If you truly are uncomfortable with this person making contact with your girlfriend, have a conversation with her and be honest. No yelling, no demanding, no ultimatums, simply a mature conversation. However, your girlfriend having this person in her life is her choice and if you do not want to create any distance between you, you will accept her decision.
    2 answers · Etiquette · 2 days ago
  • Why is it so awkward meeting the partner of a friend? Did this today and never felt so awkward?

    In this particular situation, as you said, the partner was not interested in meeting you, hence the awkwardness. This does not suggest all meetings of this kind are uncomfortable and ultimately, comes down to the perspective of each person and the dynamic/lack of dynamic between them.
    In this particular situation, as you said, the partner was not interested in meeting you, hence the awkwardness. This does not suggest all meetings of this kind are uncomfortable and ultimately, comes down to the perspective of each person and the dynamic/lack of dynamic between them.
    5 answers · Etiquette · 2 days ago