• Producing very little breastmilk?

    Okay, so first of all, CONGRATULATIONS on your new addition! Second, good for her for wanting to be a working breast feeding mom, kudos! So I'm sure while you were in the hospital, you were given the spill about how much better breast milk is for baby, and how much cheaper it is for parents than bottle feeding, right? There are multiple benefits... show more
    Okay, so first of all, CONGRATULATIONS on your new addition! Second, good for her for wanting to be a working breast feeding mom, kudos! So I'm sure while you were in the hospital, you were given the spill about how much better breast milk is for baby, and how much cheaper it is for parents than bottle feeding, right? There are multiple benefits of breastfeeding: -Bonding for mom and baby -Most cost effective -Mom's passive immunity for babies immune system -Good nutrition in the form of various vitamins, minerals, and tastes for baby to gain and experience -ETC The benefits are endless. As I'm sure they told you. However, a stressful environment can also affect the milk supply. She can try stress reduction techniques as well as herbal supplements like Fenugreek etc to try and increase the milk supply. Skin to skin with the baby helps with the let down of milk, and strictly breast feeding allows her body to know how much it needs to make based on how much the baby is eating. But for working moms, this can be incredibly difficult. Has she tried pumping her breast milk through out the day at regular intervals? This can also stimulate the hormone in her body to produce more milk. She could also call a local WIC office and ask to speak with the lactation consultant, or contact your pediatrician. There are multiple resources at her disposal if she wishes to continue breast feeding, even it it's minimal. It's not too late to salvage some effective breast feeding techniques. Truthfully, the benefits of breast feeding outweigh the benefits of formula, however, formula is made with everything a baby needs to thrive nutrition wise. The most important thing to remember is if baby is getting the nutrition and vitamins it needs to maintain adequate glucose and calorie intake levels, and is gaining weight adequately, then it doesn't matter what you're feeding it. The point is to allow the baby to thrive on whatever method you should choose to use nutrition wise. To even incorporate 1-3 bottles or feedings per day of breast milk to the baby would still be very beneficial. But formula these days has come a long way and the baby will have everything it needs either way. Don't worry. Sometimes it just comes down to convenience and how mom can keep her sanity the best, sometimes that means giving up the sometimes stressful breast feeding aspect. Breast feeding is no easy task, it requires a lot out of a mom and is ultimately their choice to start or continue. The fact that the baby has breast fed at all is an accomplishment in and of itself. Remind your momma that no matter what she chooses, she's wonderful and she's doing a great job! All moms could use some reassurance now and then. Especially with new babies around.
    9 answers · Newborn & Baby · 12 months ago
  • If I have sex before marriage, will our child be a 'bastard'?

    If your child is born out of wedlock, then technically yes. If the father walks away and isn't involved in the child's life, then yes. However, standards have changed this day in age. Things are different than they used to be and things like this are far more accepted in society than they used to be. When it comes to trying to terminate the... show more
    If your child is born out of wedlock, then technically yes. If the father walks away and isn't involved in the child's life, then yes. However, standards have changed this day in age. Things are different than they used to be and things like this are far more accepted in society than they used to be. When it comes to trying to terminate the rights of the biological father and/or having a man adopt your child from a previous relationship, the state usually won't legally bastardize a child unless the mother is married to or committed to the man that is adopting the child. The rules around all this are rather sketchy. Just have to keep in mind the best interests of the child. No matter what that may mean for the relationship between the parents. By the way, just because you "have sex before marriage", doesn't mean it'll always result in a baby. Be safe, use protection. Protect yourself.
    16 answers · Other - Pregnancy & Parenting · 12 months ago
  • Is it normal for my 3 month old to still be wearing newborn clothes/diapers?

    Is your 3 month old gaining weight adequately? Was the baby premature at birth? Did the baby have a low birth weight at birth? Is one of or both of you very tall and baby is long length wise? Are you formula or breast feeding? All of these and many other things can have an effect on the normal growth and development of a newborn. What does your... show more
    Is your 3 month old gaining weight adequately? Was the baby premature at birth? Did the baby have a low birth weight at birth? Is one of or both of you very tall and baby is long length wise? Are you formula or breast feeding? All of these and many other things can have an effect on the normal growth and development of a newborn. What does your pediatrician say? If they don't seem concerned, then I wouldn't worry. Some babies just don't gain a ton of weight very quickly. If you have concerns of any kind, contact the Ped, that's what they're there for.
    11 answers · Newborn & Baby · 12 months ago
  • I am over 45 and my husband is 38, does having a carrier mother cost a lot for us to have a child?

    As in a surrogate? It really all depends on the surrogate. If you know them personally, or they answer an add of some kind, then legal paperwork should be involved to lessen any possible issues no matter the relationship between you. If you find them through an agency or something, it can be very expensive. I would just do some research, ask around,... show more
    As in a surrogate? It really all depends on the surrogate. If you know them personally, or they answer an add of some kind, then legal paperwork should be involved to lessen any possible issues no matter the relationship between you. If you find them through an agency or something, it can be very expensive. I would just do some research, ask around, see what others may or may not be able to share with you. That'd give you an idea of what kind of costs you're looking at.
    6 answers · Other - Pregnancy & Parenting · 12 months ago
  • Could I be pregnant?

    I would say alot of your symptoms could just be related to the hormone changes your body is experiencing with the new birth control. These symptoms can be similar to pregnancy. As far as getting pregnant the day after your period ended, it's probably not likely. Your body sheds the fertile lining of your uterus and theoretically an embryo... show more
    I would say alot of your symptoms could just be related to the hormone changes your body is experiencing with the new birth control. These symptoms can be similar to pregnancy. As far as getting pregnant the day after your period ended, it's probably not likely. Your body sheds the fertile lining of your uterus and theoretically an embryo shouldn't be able to implant. Now by no means am I a Dr. I'm just giving my opinion. Also, by the way, if you overly stress yourself out about this, your body can start to create symptoms that aren't related to an actual pregnancy. Just throwing that out there. Also, you need to take those at the same time every day in order to maintain therapeutic levels. A skipped/missed/late dose and cause your levels of the drug to be less effective and yes, you can get pregnant as a result. Do the responsible thing and set an alarm or something for yourself for daily life so that you can remember to take it. You're already being responsible by choosing to use BC as a method of family planning, good for you! The next step is to use it properly for the most effective results. If you're concerned about being pregnant, take a pregnancy test. My suggestion is to wait until you've missed a period though. Or even if you don't miss it, take one anyway, it'll give you peace of mind. :) Hope this helps!
    6 answers · Other - Pregnancy & Parenting · 12 months ago
  • If we had sex on the 18th and 20th of last week, could she be pregnant ?

    Personally, I'd say you'd have to give it more time to be sure. And the likelihood that she got pregnant 2 days after the end of her period is slim. The uterus should shed the fertile lining during the period, making the uterine environment not suitable for an embryo to implant. However, you'll probably need to give it some more time to... show more
    Personally, I'd say you'd have to give it more time to be sure. And the likelihood that she got pregnant 2 days after the end of her period is slim. The uterus should shed the fertile lining during the period, making the uterine environment not suitable for an embryo to implant. However, you'll probably need to give it some more time to be sure. If you're in the clear this time, might wanna consider some form of family planning in the near future if you're not ready for children, that way there's not worry or added stress between you.
    5 answers · Other - Pregnancy & Parenting · 12 months ago
  • Poll would you ever adopt a kid?

    Absolutely. There are plenty of kids in the system that are just the product of bad circumstances and they deserve a good home as well.
    Absolutely. There are plenty of kids in the system that are just the product of bad circumstances and they deserve a good home as well.
    14 answers · Other - Pregnancy & Parenting · 12 months ago
  • Is it babysitting when it’s your own kids ?

    Best answer: In my opinion, it's definitely not babysitting if they're your own children, no. That's just what comes with the title of being a parent, parenting. It's not babysitting.
    Best answer: In my opinion, it's definitely not babysitting if they're your own children, no. That's just what comes with the title of being a parent, parenting. It's not babysitting.
    8 answers · Other - Pregnancy & Parenting · 12 months ago
  • Boyfriend refuses to have sex with me or kiss me?

    My opinion, he's over the relationship or something has happened. Either he's just lost interest, he's cheated, or he's hiding something. Something like that. Guys don't just act this way for no reason. And trust me, when you ask him, and he says "I don't know", he knows, he's just choosing not to say. Sounds... show more
    My opinion, he's over the relationship or something has happened. Either he's just lost interest, he's cheated, or he's hiding something. Something like that. Guys don't just act this way for no reason. And trust me, when you ask him, and he says "I don't know", he knows, he's just choosing not to say. Sounds like he's struggling with trying to decide what to do. But due to the duration of your relationship, he doesn't know how to deal with being without you. And guys aren't really great with feelings. They will watch something crash and burn before they will ever admit there was a problem. Those are just the facts. I would talk to him, tell him that if he's not willing to work on things and try to fix whatever has happened, then tell him goodbye. You should not have to beg for his attention or affection. Period. I'm not going to lie, it's going to hurt. A lot. But, in time, you will be okay. It takes time. It hurts a lot less to be without someone who didn't want you, than be with someone who doesn't. You are so very young, you have so much to learn and experience and 1 stupid *** guy isn't going to keep you from being who you're meant to be. Years from now, when you're happy and living your life as you've always dreamed, you'll look back and wonder why that ever hurt so much, and why you ever wasted your time with such a person. You shouldn't have to force a relationship. My advice, give him a chance to explain himself and try to fix this, if he doesn't, move on. Life is too short. There are so many bigger and better things that await you. The rest, will fall into place.
    110 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 years ago
  • Should I have sex with the guy at the gym?

    Um, no? Dude is whack. I wouldn't go there. No telling who else has. Yuck.
    Um, no? Dude is whack. I wouldn't go there. No telling who else has. Yuck.
    10 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 years ago
  • Me and my ex went out last night after 2 years... And we had SEX! What do I do? Should I just move on?

    Well, you never know if you don't try. At least you won't live your life wondering "what if?". Just saying. What do you have to lose?
    Well, you never know if you don't try. At least you won't live your life wondering "what if?". Just saying. What do you have to lose?
    6 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 years ago
  • My boyfriend is trying to force me to enlarge my breasts, what do I do?

    First of all, dude sounds like a prick. There's NO reason whatsoever that you should need to modify yourself to appease HIM. It's different if you actually want the procedure, but if not, then there's no excuse. That is your body. If he's giving you an ultimatum, then give him one back. The irritated GF (soon to be EX gf) in me would... show more
    First of all, dude sounds like a prick. There's NO reason whatsoever that you should need to modify yourself to appease HIM. It's different if you actually want the procedure, but if not, then there's no excuse. That is your body. If he's giving you an ultimatum, then give him one back. The irritated GF (soon to be EX gf) in me would say "I'll get my breasts enlarged, if you'll get a penis enlargement". The "I'm better than that" part of me says, just walk away. You need not change for ANY man. The right one will love and support you for exactly who you already are and who/what you want to become. You're perfect the way you are, unless YOU feel the need to change, you shouldn't change to make someone else happy. And an H cup? Seriously? I mean that's not even partially realistic. Tell him this isn't Build-A-Broad Workshop. If he wants to design women, he can go and become a plastic surgeon or work for Hugh Hefner. More power to him. Men...*eye roll*.
    10 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 years ago
  • Question about oral sex?

    So. This is your choice. Point blank. Be stern with him. Tell him that if he isn't willing to do things at your pace, then he can go find someone else who will. As women, we are all too often used as sexual objects, and some of them try to make us feel like we have no choice but to comply with their demands and wishes and I have news for you,... show more
    So. This is your choice. Point blank. Be stern with him. Tell him that if he isn't willing to do things at your pace, then he can go find someone else who will. As women, we are all too often used as sexual objects, and some of them try to make us feel like we have no choice but to comply with their demands and wishes and I have news for you, that's simply not true. You always have a choice. If he's not willing to compromise, let him go. He's not the one for you. The right man will never make you feel inferior or pressured into doing something you're not comfortable with. He needs to get over himself. He's not God's gift to women. You have to be strong, firm, and stand your ground. Be proud to be a woman, we hold more power than you may think. And the right man, will never make you question your worth or where you stand with him. Period. You have a choice to make. Be treated as a play thing, or know your worth. Good luck.
    21 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 years ago
  • Does narcotics affect breast milk?

    Best answer: This absolutely crosses the breast milk and can definitely affect the baby. Narcotics are not prescribed to breast feeding mothers typically. She is harming that baby intentionally. There is NO doctor that will say what she's doing is "okay". Get CPS involved. Cigarettes are bad enough, but you can NOT take narcotics and... show more
    Best answer: This absolutely crosses the breast milk and can definitely affect the baby. Narcotics are not prescribed to breast feeding mothers typically. She is harming that baby intentionally. There is NO doctor that will say what she's doing is "okay". Get CPS involved. Cigarettes are bad enough, but you can NOT take narcotics and smoke weed whilst breast feeding. They will take that child away from her if she pops positive on a "random" drug screen. Intervene and save that baby from a mother that has no business doing what she's doing. She needs education. Period. Intervene, before it's too late.
    7 answers · Newborn & Baby · 2 years ago
  • Do you think gay people should be allowed to have kids?

    I believe that it shouldn't matter what their gender or sexuality is. The world we live in today is forever changing. Times have changed. A home is no longer always a mom and a dad. Now we have 2 moms, 2 dads, a mixture of family, etc. This doesn't mean that the child will participate in the same relationship choices, or even if it does, who... show more
    I believe that it shouldn't matter what their gender or sexuality is. The world we live in today is forever changing. Times have changed. A home is no longer always a mom and a dad. Now we have 2 moms, 2 dads, a mixture of family, etc. This doesn't mean that the child will participate in the same relationship choices, or even if it does, who cares? Who are we to tell them they "shouldn't be allowed to have or adopt children" based on something minute like gender or sexuality? Would we rather a baby or child live their whole life in a miserable home life/foster system/shelter/etc situations, or have the love of 1-2 parents that want nothing more than to have a child of their own? Why deny them the happiness/experience of being parents? Who are we to tell them that what they're wanting to do is "wrong"? I've come across many families that were same sex couples and the love between those parents was equal to or far surpassed the love felt by the "traditional" family unit. We should focus more on loving our children and making them feel loved than judging them for who they choose to be or be with. We live in a society where unfortunately, you get judged for EVERYTHING and ANYTHING you may do that seems "out of the norm" to others, and honestly, these days, what's even "normal" anymore anyway? It's all circumstantial if you ask me. And I say it's time we start focusing more on how we treat others rather than judging them for something we ourselves don't believe in. They aren't bothering you, leave them be. They should be able to have the same choices that any opposite sex couple should have, and a lot of the time, they're better parents anyway. They have overcome the diversity and critique, and have learned to become stronger people because of it. And their children reap the benefits and are raised to be much more open minded rather than closed. Is that really such a bad thing? Just my opinion.
    48 answers · Parenting · 2 years ago
  • My girlfriend won't have sex with me should I break up?

    Well, that depends. Are you going to tell her that because she won't "give it up" that you're done with her, and just move on to someone who will? Chances are, she's either not comfortable enough yet, or has other reasons. Just talk to her. Find out what her hang up about it is. You don't know her past, maybe there are... show more
    Well, that depends. Are you going to tell her that because she won't "give it up" that you're done with her, and just move on to someone who will? Chances are, she's either not comfortable enough yet, or has other reasons. Just talk to her. Find out what her hang up about it is. You don't know her past, maybe there are reasons for her actions. (or lack thereof). If you care about her, find out what you can before you make a choice. Besides, relationships aren't all about sex. And the ones that are, usually don't last. But, if none of that matters to you, and you just want sex, then sure, move on and find someone more willing to be what you're after. Don't waste anymore of her times or yours. Just my opinion.
    20 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 years ago
  • At what age do you think a person stops being stupid?

    Never... Okay, so not exactly. However, it's really based off age, gender, and exposure. Alot of people are either babied as children, spoiled, or are just ignorant to the ways of the world. Ignorant in the terms of just not knowing any better. Typically women tend to mature faster than men, and typically it takes longer for me. Those are just... show more
    Never... Okay, so not exactly. However, it's really based off age, gender, and exposure. Alot of people are either babied as children, spoiled, or are just ignorant to the ways of the world. Ignorant in the terms of just not knowing any better. Typically women tend to mature faster than men, and typically it takes longer for me. Those are just the facts. Women tend to mature better in their 20's+ and men in their 30's+. But this isn't true for everyone. Also, the brain is still immature until the mid 20's in a lot of key areas. That being said, it also takes mistakes, life lessons, failure, success, depression, happiness, ambition, etc to finally figure out what you want in life. And in so doing, it helps you mature into the person you should become. Which USUALLY "fixes" the stupid, or at least tones it down a few notches. However, sometimes, the answer is simply...never. Simple as that.
    23 answers · Mental Health · 2 years ago
  • Is it rude to do this?

    I both agree and disagree that it is kinda rude. On the one hand, if you're very involved in the children's lives, she could/should involved you in every aspect. On the other hand, having children is a very sensitive subject for some women. Especially when there's only 1 parent in the household, and even moreso when there's only 1... show more
    I both agree and disagree that it is kinda rude. On the one hand, if you're very involved in the children's lives, she could/should involved you in every aspect. On the other hand, having children is a very sensitive subject for some women. Especially when there's only 1 parent in the household, and even moreso when there's only 1 parent period. But, it is kinda rude to exclude you from certain things when you are such an influential member of the household and their lives, but then still depend on you to help out. Like it's expected. It's almost like she's hiding you, or doesn't want anyone (like the father), to know of your involvement, but you're adequate for the other aspects of her life. Seems odd. Being a single parent myself, or rather, being the ONLY parent, I am very apprehensive with who I let into our lives also. However, when I find a good one, I'm not afraid to share him. I don't care what anyone thinks about it. It's my choice. I would talk to her about it, see why she's kinda holding back on that aspect with you. Just hear her out, and see what she has to say. On another note, it's just Facebook. I wouldn't put too much stock into it. If she cares for you, she will care for you no matter what. Social media will not change that.
    13 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 years ago
  • Why are some guys jerks?

    Unfortunately, not everyone is as honest and truthful as we are. A lot of people use the internet to create a false identity that helps them to escape from the stresses of their daily lives. After all, we can be anyone we want on the internet. It is rare that you actually find someone genuine on one of those sites. However, I can tell you, this is... show more
    Unfortunately, not everyone is as honest and truthful as we are. A lot of people use the internet to create a false identity that helps them to escape from the stresses of their daily lives. After all, we can be anyone we want on the internet. It is rare that you actually find someone genuine on one of those sites. However, I can tell you, this is very common. Don't fall for their flattery and foolishness. Because they will lay it on very thick and make you fall for it. And sometimes they talk to you for a WHILE before you start to get the idea that they're after something different than what they're telling you. They also tell lies, and have secrets. (like being married). Just be mindful. You can't really trust much of what you read on the internet. Use this as a learning experience and take that knowledge into the next encounter. But I can promise you, for every guy out there that's a prick, there are 5 that are actually genuine, you just have to find them. Good luck!
    6 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 years ago
  • Sex advice?

    Best answer: First of all, NO. That is not okay. If you're going to be with someone, then you need to be in a MUTUAL relationship. Especially when it comes to sex. He needs to put in some effort versus trynna do this while you're sleeping. And you shouldn't "let him" do anything. You need to tell him that this makes you... show more
    Best answer: First of all, NO. That is not okay. If you're going to be with someone, then you need to be in a MUTUAL relationship. Especially when it comes to sex. He needs to put in some effort versus trynna do this while you're sleeping. And you shouldn't "let him" do anything. You need to tell him that this makes you uncomfortable and you don't want to do it. If he's not going to put in any real effort, then he needs to be removed from the picture. A real man would do anything to make you feel comfortable and make sure that the feelings and effort are mutual. This is not normal. By any means. Dude is weird. Plus, you shouldn't have to beg for affection. If he doesn't want it when you do, you could find someone else who shares a more mutual feeling about the intimate connection. You don't have to deal with that, from any man. Period. Know your worth.
    6 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 years ago