Ur not a bad mom. If u were a bad mom then u wouldn't even care or feel bad about ur strained relationship. Which, by the way, I can TOTALLY relate! I'm basically going thru the same thing, but thankfully am coming out on the other side of it now. My little one is almost 3. Things have gotten better over...
Best answer: Ur not a bad mom. If u were a bad mom then u wouldn't even care or feel bad about ur strained relationship. Which, by the way, I can TOTALLY relate! I'm basically going thru the same thing, but thankfully am coming out on the other side of it now. My little one is almost 3. Things have gotten better over the past several months, but there was a point were I was sending him to my mom for 3 or 4 days in a row and loathed him coming back bc it was a CONSTANT battle between the two of us!! The only time he would listen to me is if I screamed, & it seemed I was screaming all day long. If he did something really bad & I smacked his butt he'd turn around & smack me back. We actually got into a little smacking battle & I stopped bc I knew I was about to snap the hell out on his lil tail. Nothing worked with him & I was always feeling drained- physically, emotionally, mentally.
Then I happened upon a show called SuperNanny & she was dealing with a little hellion that reminded me of my own. She put him in time out, one minute for each year of his life, got eye level with him & explained why he was in time out, no conversation in time out, & every time the brat got up she put him right back in and started the time over. Then after 3 minutes she again explained why he was in time out, and then asked for an apology, then he was free to go. Well, she broke that little brat of his bad behavior. I laughed to myself "If only it were that easy!" But then I decided to give it a shot, and it WORKED!
It ate him up to lose control, to be put in time out, to realize who the boss was. Man oh man, I was loving it! lol! For the first few days he was in time out a lot. Then he realized I was dead serious & not ever going to give in. Things have gotten a lot better since then, now he's my lil sidekick & we have fun. He's still a lil snot from time to time, of course, but NOTHING like he used to be, thank God! If I just mention time out he straightens his act up real quick! And after I mention it once, second strike- he's out! EVERY TIME! I watch that Super Nanny show every chance I get now. That woman is brilliant!
Now if I could just get him to stop pooping in the yard & use the potty instead I'd be doing good! And the same old broken record plays "Where did I go wrong?!" lol! Check out that Supper Nanny Joe. You may be surprised by how well her techniques work! And just think, a year from now this won't even matter anymore. Y'all will be on to bigger, better things. :)
P.S. - Totally ignore the fake little baby temper tantrums! I don't care how long it goes on, don't give in! Carson used to do that, too. If I knew NOTHING was wrong with him, & he was being a little drama king, I would just about snap! He would go CRAZY! Beat his head hard on the floors, on the walls. I was afraid he was mentally handicap or something. It had to have hurt. My husband & I would grab him up & beg him not to do that, hug him, etc.. Then it occurred to me - maybe that's exactly why he does it. For that attention. As if he wasn't getting attention 24/7 anyways. I figured I'd ruined him, spoiled him. I've never met another child like him. Very smart, but EXTREMELY stubborn. I finally decided to ignore it, & once he realized he'd get no positive or negative attention from throwing those fits they began to decrease dramatically. It was hard at first but I stuck to my guns. That's a once in a while thing now, instead of an every day, all day thing. He never bangs his head anymore, thank God. I tell u, that kid was really something else! Ur basically in a battle for authority with a 3 year old. Seriously! Great, huh? It'll be okay. I promise. Don't forget to breathe! :)