My mom caught us having sex and now she won't let us see each other?

Question

My mum caught me and my boyfriend, Adam, having sex and now she's banned me from ever speaking to him. She's strict at the best of times and its impossible to live with her. I'm 17 and he's 19. She's confiscated my phone and laptop, which I bought myself and takes me to school and work so I don't sneak off to meet him. She's never liked him, she sees him as a loser because he didn't go to college and got a job in a hardware store. He is actually really good at his job and the customers really like him. The only time I get to speak to him is when my parents are asleep and I sneak my laptop. Adam has offered me to stay over at his house but he has a guy roommate and I don't want to impose. I really just want to get out of my house. She's acting like I'm the Devil incarnate because I lost my virginity. I wish she would just see that he's a really sweet and caring guy and he makes me really happy. I see myself spending my life with him. I don't know what to do?

Answer 1

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At 19 you can't possibly know for sure of anything yet what your future entails. You have a whole life ahead of you and until then your mom wants you to work hard to achieve your goals and dreams. Your boyfriend is only 19 so he could go to college at anytime.

Your mom had every right to be upset, because she caught her daughter having sex and she has to set boundaries and make sure that you follow them so that you don't lose respect for her.

If I were you I would just do what she says and follow the rules until she can regain trust in you and perhaps she will let you see your boyfriend again.

Answer 2

Next time, have sex somewhere she can't catch you.

but until then, it is right of her to be a lithe upset, i mean she caught her daughter....imagine how awkward that is for her. I know how tough that must be for you, but just respect her wishes and in 1 year (or less) you are off on your on because u will be 18!

Answer 3

Dude you disrespected your moms rules by having this guy over for sex! You need grow up some more apologise to your mom and tell your man he can't come around for a longtime. If you want your mom to take you seriously then act like a mature grown up but by leaving home cos of moms rules proves that you are still in nappies!

Answer 4

It sounds like your mother knows you well. See, you still want to contact him, even though it's clear she doesn't want that. You'll just have to wait this out and actually decide to do what she says before you get your stuff back. In a year you can screw him all you want.

Answer 5

What do you expect her to do? e.e She. Caught. You. having. Sex. is she supposed to just let you do whatever the f*ck you want? Common sense.

Answer 6

well look at it from your moms side. watching your daughter get fucked is pretty ******* weird. but just know that your parents will always love and your only 17, he might not always love you...so moving in with him could be a disaster.

Answer 7

Don't do anything stupid until your 18, so that he doesn't get in trouble also

Answer 8

you're not going to like this, but as long as you're living under her roof you have to accede to her wishes !

Answer 9

Well you probably broke her trust a bit here.. and catching your own daughter having sex is pretty shocking no matter what age...

In less than a year, you'll be 18 and you can move out then. Until then, try to make the best of the situation..

If this is someone you want to marry... then that's your decision, but just understand from your mother's point of view that she may never truly get over this... and my always have some distance towards him.. But in time, it would get better.