Dating a British man, English dating etiquette?

Question

So, I've been seeing / dating a British man (Tall, well-off business career, nicely dressed) recently. No big deal, but technically, my first 'British' dating partner. Seeing as how I'm not quite experienced with dating practices in the UK, i thought fellow readers would enlighten me with their knowledge.

We've been to several "dates" together. He's the one that suggest us to go out somewhere, so naturally, he's the person asking me out. And he was the one to label it as a "date" also. Every "date"/night goes off fairly well, but there's one thing that bothers me.
He never offers to pay for my share..

I've been so used to being spoiled to bits by other guys I've gone out on dates and/or had a relationship with. 90% of the time, i never have to pay.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to skimp out on the bill. I'm willing, but the majority of the guys i've dated in the past never allowed me to pay.

Now, i meet this wonderful man and he barely pays for my half. What gives? It makes me feel like we're barely "dating" and just hanging out as friends.

Which leads to my question, what is the British dating etiquette? Elaborate if possible..
Am I just expecting too much out of him?

Thanks (:

Answer 1

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All men are different so you never know what to expect, maybe he's just checking out if you are a gold-digger type. If you like him you shouldn't be worrying so much about the financial issues so early in the relationship. Some men no matter how well off they are can resent the kind of woman that always assumes the man will pay. Maybe he's been taken for a fool too many times and is being cautious about women who just want him for his money. It's only fair you pay your share whoever suggests the date if that's what he prefers. If he is kind and he has a good heart then he will show it in other ways, money should not be an issue. Hope all goes well for you.

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Asker's Comment:

Thanks for your advice, you're absolutely right. He's a great guy (despite this little "problem").

Thanks to everyone else for their input also, I'll learn how to correctly choose British and English next time. Frankie was a close second for best answer. (:

Answer 2

As an aside - don't confuse the terms "English" and "British". They don't mean the same thing.

Answer 3

English and British are not the same!!

Welcome to the world of the British male hun....

Answer 4

hello well im 100% all british male hes a drip to be honest i dont know about dates like you see in all the teen movies but a brit are easy going goes with the flow and normally pay the way and treat you like a princess so ditch him ang get ur self a good geordie lad haway to newcastle

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Answer 5

He sounds stupid and rude to me. I'm British and I was brought up to always offer to pay a bill in full if I asked a girl out on a romantic date, and all of my friends would do this too. And so what if he's tall, in business and "well dressed". These things don't make up for not having any manners. Maybe you shouldn't be taken in by looks and status so much and try and meet a nicer man who actually knows how to treat a lady.

Answer 6

Your British date is being stingy - what he is doing is Going Dutch, a slang term meaning that each person pays their share of the cost of going out. This might be acceptable for a first or even a second date, but not for anything beyond that.

The etiquette here in UK demands that whoever suggests a date, then pays for it. Thus, if you invite him out, you pay. However, if he invites you out, then he pays.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Going_Dutch

Some more dating etiquette info at the links below. . .
http://www.saferdates.co.uk/DatingEtique…
http://love.ivillage.com/snd/snddodonts/…

On the question, "should I be dating two people at once." The answer to that is a resounding yes with bells on. Why the hell not? Life's too short and in any case, a girl needs to be taken out and given a good time.

As Roddy L once said, "don't give them chocolates, give them Champagne and lots of it."

You've got to be straight with this guy and tell him, next time you ask me out on a date, you pay mister!

Good luck with that. . .


P.S. If this guy asks you out on a date, say yes, you'll have a whale of a time and bath in champers. . .
http://images.auctionworks.com/hi/62/615…