Will this ever go away?

Question

My husband left me 4 months ago and i have been trying to move on. I thought if i could just meet someone else it would help me stop thinking about him. But when i go on a date I want to cry all i keep thinking to myself is that It should be my husband here. I don't want a man to touch me kiss me or anything. How can i stop thinking about him and move forward? People tell me it takes time but i feel like i'm loosing my mind. I miss him sooooo much it kills me. He lives in ohio so i cant see him and i have stopped calling him bucause most of the time he wont answer or call me back. I was a good wife. I just dont understand how he could say he was going to go visit him mom amd never come back after 5 yrs of marriage. Please help me to undersdtand.

Answer 1

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That’s so sad. It will go away but unfortunately the only thing is time. I think you need to focus on something other than relationships, keep your mind preoccupied. Work? A career? Yeah its tame advice but what can you do? Consider yourself luckier if there weren’t children involved and you lost everything you ever cared about - your friends, your possessions, your home, your mind. A lot of people go there, most come out stronger and end up in better relationships.

Answer 2

It is normal to feel sad in your situation since it feel like he abandon you,even if that person has hurt you very badly,you have to remember that you loved him once and you can't just stop loving somebody in a moment because they hurt you,it takes time to heal.

Just take some time out for yourself before you enter another relationship,give yourself time to breathe.

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Answer 3

Talk about a class A Jerk! They are right though...time heals all. I'm going through a break-up myself...4 years.

It sounds like there were things building up for him, but no excuses for what he did. I think he was saving himself from seeing you upset by not telling you to your face.

First thing you have to do is stop calling him. Remove all things that remind you of him. Rearrange your furniture and clean your house. It's amazing how those little things help.

Answer 4

i know how you feel, you're just gonna have to be strong and deal with it. If its too much to handle then maybe you should go see a therapist or something.

Answer 5

sorry darling, just be strong and move on.. he lied to you.. wats the point while u deserve better..

Answer 6

Men who behave that way have no spine! He lied to you and yes I'm sure you feel it's the end of the world. When I broke up with my boyfriend,I tried going out too but I only felt worse and used to hide my tears from others. It doesn't really help some to go out,or even be with another guy,it will only feel good when you're with the right guy. Take some time for yourself,stay home and cry,cry until you can't cry anymore,watch tv,read a book,but take time for yourself,the healing process takes time. Others have been through worse but have come through and I'm sure you will too. Focus on you,nobody else has,not even that loser you married.
Wish you all the best,feel bette soon!

Answer 7

No excuse for the way he chose to leave you. That is so much more damaging than if you had sat down and talked about it. Part of the hurt comes from not knowing his reasons or why he would have been so completely insensitive to you after 5 years of marriage!

Life goes on though. You will come out of it and hopefully will meet someone who will respect your feelings whether it is about marriage, dating, sex, children, or even the fact that you are beaten up emotionally. I met someone who understood that and waited for me to heal and trust again. We've been together now for 18 years! It will happen for you too.

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Married twice, engaged twice.

Answer 8

hiya rob, it does not feel like it at the Moment,but it does get better,but you need to let him go.he as moved on,and so must you.other wise you will drive yourself mad.i should think he as got another women,so he left you for her.you should hate him really for the way he left you.he as got no guts.it must have been coming on for a long time.start thinking of yourself.picture him with this other women ,that will make you mad,so then you might start going out and enjoying yourself.you will get over him,and find a guy who will love and respect you.you have got to start putting him behind you,and relies he is not coming back.so you do some think to sort your life out.good luck.xx