Egyptian manager wants to marry me?

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Hi
Well where do I start? I've looked on the net a few times and I know all the story's about egyptian men marrying foreign women for passports money ect... But I do need advice on this one I went to sharm el sherik for a holiday with my mother and son, we got on really well with everyone guests and staff its a small hotel so it was very intimate.
We were there for two weeks... we had some complaining to do so the manager was known to us anyway 5 days before I left we myself and someone staying at the hotel went out for the night came back and started talking to the manager I was talking about my best friend who's half egyptian she now lives in cairo, she should have been meeting me there but couldn't because of work. Anyway we got to talking and then the two nights before I was leaving he asked me to marry him he wants me to go back in october to be married and I think by propper muslim law as he's not Mentioned an odifi paper just about going to the embassy.... he knows that if I do go it would be just for one week because of my son, but then he wants me to sort out everything here so we could move to sharm with him.... I don't know what to do my friend in cairo dose'nt think I should marry him she thinks I should date but I'm on a very low income and can't afford to go and rent a place. He's got his own appartment and I know I'd need to be married to stay with him.. or I could ask for a room at the hotel but feel really cheeky doing so. I feel like just going and starting a life there with my son but am also scared of losing everything here?
Do you think this is Genuine?
Help please....

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I'm not sure if I do trust him with my son or me.... but I do believe that my son would have a far better up bringing then here... do you think I should just go and stay for a week at the hotel to get to know him better?

what do you think about the odifi papers sorry for the spelling =)

Hi kim
Thanks for your advice but in answer yes I do know alot about the muslim Culture.. as I said my best friend is egyptian shes been living there for 4years and loves it she married to an english egyptian... I know its far fetched but he seems to be offering a better life he has he's own money a good job and also wants me to meet his family.... here I do nothing I worry about my son going to secondary school here... I've just qualified as a hairdresser and I know I could work there. I'm not in love but know I could be and I just feel its an opportunity for us is there anyway of going without being bound? my friend in cairo wants me to go and live with her but I did love sharm? thanks for all your answers

Answer 1

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According to what you mentioned, I think the man is serious and looking for real marriage. Orfi paper is normal in this case and you can make it official and complete all procedures later. That would be better for you and him to register your marriage in the embassy and make it also official registered Egyptian marriage.
I expect you can be a good couple if you speak more about details and yes you need 1 more week at least to meet him daily and check how your life can be if he changed his job or work location. It happens many times that some people love the place and they can't imagine that once they live for example in Cairo later, everything would feel different.
If you can't imagine your life with him in a worse city not in Sharm, that means you loved the place more than the guy. Otherwise if you can feel comfortable with him anywhere, go on and start a new life with him.

The main problem that I can't really tell you how unstable it can be, is your son. In all cases I think he wont be comfortable. You can't leave him far from you and it'll not be easy for him that big change. At the same time, even if you decide not to marry that man you'll be sad and it'll be reflected on your son.

About Muslim culture, don't worry the woman have good rights in Islam if your man apply Islamic rules right.

I wish you good luck

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Egyptian man

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Thanks for all the advice, I think a holiday is needed just a holiday for now=)

Answer 2

Dont fall for that trap , you already know that Egyptians are good visa hunters. No matter if he is even the minister of tourism. still i wont do it if i were you.
cultural and religion differences will pop up later, dont be blinded by love.

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Swiss-Egyptian.

Answer 3

seriously don't do it. I know that area well and it is true, they are after a passport and money, there is no other reason. Plus how well do you know this person really? Would you trust him with your son??

Answer 4

Definitely do not marry him or leave your life here to be with him. Think of your son and his stability and happiness.

Answer 5

Oh yea

I also believe in Santa, The Tooth fairy and Horoscopes

Answer 6

This is one of them situations where you have to say No.

Answer 7

the second day you knew him he asked you to marry him?

are you ok lol...

Answer 8

I agree with sweet fish. It's wayyyy too early to know if this man is the man you should marry.

Answer 9

he wants to marry you so think if you love him so much

Answer 10

Don't be a fool

Answer 11

Words fail me

Answer 12

Sorry to be Crude! but are u completely stupid to believe this man is ''in love with you'' ?? you cant marry a man that u known what 2 weeks? yes sure love @ first sight might exist but to ask to be married so quick is really stupid. Ive been to Egypt 5 times and im going back in 1 months time and trust me the amount of times they told me i love you, marry me ive been waiting for you my whole life, my answer to that was yea and your going to waiting for ever you got no chance. Trust me he isen't Genuine, you be used for Temporary fun till he gets bored and then maybe he will divorce you or ask you to convert to muslim & if you do this you must understand everything about his culture and what your going to let yourself in for, then u will see the life he is going to make for you which could be either good or very bad, or he may also take on another wife since they are allowed to marry more than one woman. & another thing why would you take your Son to this place to live away from his school his friends everything he knows?? i have many Egyptian friends and i talk alot with them on the internet and most tell me kim i hate this place i want to leave.... so just open your eyes and dont be blind by this because trust me it wont last long. You dont even know this man, and u will never know if he is genuine unless you know him from a long period of time. maybe try dating and just visit when u can afford to and keep in touch via email, mic, txt, msn, yahoo etc if he is still in contact with you maybe 1 year down the line then decide. but to just jump to the decision that quick then you really are gullable and Naive. *stop dreaming* and most of all think about how the change would affect your child. I mean do you even know about the muslim culture? do you know how they live in Egypt? do you know arabic? will his family agree to the marriage?

P.S Sure your Going to lose Everything.
Also make sure he is tested because i know from visiting this country alot of times they like to sleep with any tourist they can specially russian woman.

Not all Egyptian men are like that and i have some really good friends that are Egyptian dont get me wrong, but they have educated me to there way of life and thinking & they tell me things you couldn't even begin to imagine.

But Good luck with your Decision.

Answer 13

Cannot believe you are even asking this question, he is probably genuine but love to a man in a country like that means a different thing, my wife's mother married a Turkish man under the same circumstances as she was very naive also, all went pear shaped once they were married, she was treat like a doormat, he used to beat her etc.
You don't know him well enough to even entertain his request, he probably asks a different woman every week.
Don't be stupid and do something you will regret, sorry for seeming harsh but this won't end up a happy ever after story, I may seem harsh but I would put money on it that it would not work !
Please think before you do something that will ruin your life, as they say the grass aint always greener

Answer 14

- you do seem to be aware of muslim + egyptian culture as your good friend is half egyptian and is living there, so you are not stupid!
- Dont marry him straight away, you need to get to know him more, so only way is to go back there and stay longer. Or stay with your friend if you are able to, she knows more.
- i do reckon it is genuine as compared to western culture a muslim man will ask for marriage when they are certain, as dating isn't allowed...but i know some people do...
- get to know him more + stay with your friend.

Hope all goes well for you.