If as a impolsive 17 yr old getting married? and now 29?

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im with my long term partner im so embarrassed about what i did i cant bring my self to tell him, p.s i am divorced from my 3 mth silly decision... please help i want to get married but dont want him to find out about my past,

Answer 1

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Everyone makes mistakes. If this is your worst one, pat yourself on the back for not being as stupid as some of the rest of us.

I bet he won't even bat an eye. Just tell him.

Answer 2

Not sure what you're trying to say...you were an impulsive 17 yr old and got married, and now are 29?

So tell him...you were 17 (young and foolish). Anyone who is going to hold immature, youthful choices against you isn't someone who is ready for a mature relationship. A lot of us make foolish decisions when we are young...I married at 19 and it was a stupid decision.

Your past will likely come out some day, so you need to be the one to reveal it. If you don't think he'll like you because of your past, then he's not a guy you need to be with. If someone can't accept all that you are, they aren't worth your time.

Answer 3

Regardless what happened in your past, I think you should tell him. 'Things like that does have its way of coming out sooner or later. The best thing to do is to tell him, it is going to be worse, when he finds out from someone else. And if he loves you enough, then your past won't matter to him. But, who wants to live in the past anyway, you are his future and thats what counts.

Answer 4

You cannot get around not telling him If you care for him and he for you, he will be upset you are only telling him now, It should have been the first time you slept together.
What's the worst he can do? change his Facebook entry to single and dump you.

Answer 5

tell him; he probably will see it as a silly mistake, which you say it was.

Answer 6

The worst thing you can do is to keep a secret. He will find out! You must come clean with him asap. My now roommate and x boyfriend, was lucky that he didn't keep his secret from me. We were together for 4 months, when on evening he confessed that he was still married. We have tried for 4 yrs now to get the divorce and she refuses. Now with the times, she wants to remarry to her man of 9 yrs. We have stated that when the money is available then it will happen. The point is, don't keep secrets and always be honest. You can't ever go back, only move ahead. If he can't take the truth, then he isn't worth it. Tell him the truth always!!!!

Answer 7

Is he an angle, never done any mistakes, be confident tell him and also show him that you have changed and you are serious to start a new life with him, if he accepts fair enough if not forget him.

Answer 8

tell. he loves you you can hit him with a fying pan and he would stay. this is nothing.

Answer 9

We all have a past and if he really loves you it won't matter.

Answer 10

Honesty Honesty Honesty !!
You know this.
As soon as you tell him all the pressure is gone.
If you don't someday you risk him asking you, " since together is there anything you haven't told me?" He should be your best friend? Like an attorney in a important case. He needs to know all the facts. To win he cannot be lied to.
You need the slate clean to be honest.
You have the choice now to do the right thing.
Are you going to make another silly decision?

Answer 11

I'm sorry, but I can't see this as an legitimate post. No 29-year-old writes this poorly. A nine-year-old, maybe, but not 29!!!

Answer 12

You should not be keeping this a secret. If he finds out on his own he will wonder why or what else you are hiding.
If you got married in a church the first time they may have rules against marrying someone who is divorced unless you actually got an anullment.
Won't that be a lovely conversation when you start to make wedding plans. When you apply for a license you have to answer a questionare about you past. Some US states require your divorce decree documentation to issue you a new license. If you are not honest on the application by reporting your prior marital status it is fraudulent.

Good luck- move forward stop living in fear of the past.

Answer 13

tell him end off day its ur past, and ya past makes u the person u are today! and if u dont tell him he find out anyway when u go to book the marriage cos they ask u been marired before and ya have to show ya divoce papers so aint it best to tell him at home rather on the day u book it, and he respect u more for being honest- if u dnt he wonder what else u lied about.

Answer 14

You should be honest with your fiance. Explain to him that you were young and foolish but that is all behind you. There is not need to be ashamed. If he really loves you he will be understanding.

Answer 15

Lots of people made silly decisions when they were teenagers, and you're not the first one to have married young and realized it was a big mistake. At least you were smart enough to realize it was wrong, and you had sense enough to get out after 3 months. Tell him about it. He'll appreciate your honesty, and he might even laugh it off. As for me, I would just shrug it off and chalk it up to experience. It would have no effect on the relationship. Everyone made mistakes in their past, and life goes on.