How have you learned from mistakes made in relationships?

Answer 1

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Yes. Honey has a much better effect than vinegar. In all things. And that you can only change yourself.

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Although very short, it encompasses all the other points that users have made. You can only change yourself so and are not responsible for the way your partner treats you, if it is hurtful, it is their fault. Also, I agree that the best way to deal with a problem is by being the bigger person.

Answer 2

By not repeating them in the next relationship.

Answer 3

Easy...marry young and get the crap beat out of you...you learn.

Get a college degree, find a man that loves you and is your equal...live happily ever after.

Answer 4

you dont your not suppose to compare them

Answer 5

By not clutching to something if it is failing in the beginning stages cause the longer you hold on the more painfull you make it for yourself to let go when everything falls apart.

Answer 6

Mistakes are great, it helps you recognise them when you make them again and again............

Answer 7

I think that you should not lean on your mistakes for help but for what you've taken away in the department of love and understanding.

Answer 8

Yes and no.

Answer 9

Sometimes you do, sometimes you dont............Everyone always says, "well next time i wont make that mistake", but actually they will prolly make that mistake for the rest of their lives lol Its actually funny if you think about it, how many times have you told your self that you would never do "that" again, or Next time i wont date "that" kind of person.......... And then again you find your self dateing and doing the same damn think all over again and thinking to your self, "maybe this time will be better, maybe this time will work"

Answer 10

everyone has a type but if the relationship always turns out bad its time to find a new type.different personality, looks etc then your luck should turn around for you. if you mean mistakes you make in a relationship then you need to remember how you felt and others who were involved felt and you wont want to produce those feelings again or the consequences that follo
I believe making mistakes can be a good thing. They are part of life and love, they make you a more confident, a stronger and better person in the long run, only if you do learn from them that is of course.

Answer 11

i am tryng to use other people experiences in their relationships to avoide the relationships mistakes on my all relationshipe and be honest and clear all the time but i do not trust the people all the time.Also, there are many mistakes in our life if we did not learn from this mistakes our life will be nothing at all. "wish you luck"

Answer 12

i've learned the hard way unfortunately.

Somethings i can spot a mile off, but i'm still making mistakes and at the moment i'm trying to get out of one of my biggest mistakes that i have made, And this time its all my own fault and could lose someone wonderful.
so do we really learn?? not sure if we do.

one thing i have learned is when a man hits you , he'll do it again. if he does it once its time to leave.

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once suffered domestic violence.

Answer 13

yes... thats when entering into a relationship that does not work out and also trying to fit in... it sucks...

Answer 14

what? well i've learnt never to lie, but always say the truth even if it hurts because sooner or later she's going to find out so why not come clean

Answer 15

telling myself that its not the end of the world and just live and learn, Like they say u can't cry over spilt milk and mopping about it and stressing out about it will only make u drive urself crazy. just get ya self together and pick ya self and move on, I'm sure u will find the right one and you will live happily ever after.good luck

Answer 16

Not to be treated like a door mat

Answer 17

by not doing them again

Answer 18

Dear Yasmin. It depends on your ability to know what is right and wrong. Most people learn as they grow with in the parental home and their future actions towards people, IE losing friends because of their bad issues or visa verse. Relationships are different because they are a more one to one situation, by we again learn from our parents, if our parents are drug addicts, drunks, abusers both sexual or physical, it is seen though our eyes to be the right way to live and we adjust to and feel that is is right to do the same. Peer pressure and the lack of amenities also have an effect. It is the strong minded to realise where we are going wrong. My childhood was one of the above scenarios but I vowed that I would never treat my son the way I was treated, I always learnt from my mistakes and taught them to my son, learning how to appreciate other people / relationships and they are humans with feelings that can be hurt. I taught him to apologise when it was needed. My son is now 25 a Director of a very large company and a very well balanced young man some one who I can feel very proud of. We both have learnt from mistakes over the years in relationships and we are better for it. In our life time we may make more mistakes but learning from them is the most important issue.

Answer 19

There is no such thing as good or bad experience, there is just experience!

I have been married twice & all I know is that Love is the answer.. If you don't love someone or if they don't love you, then move on.

Answer 20

Yes but why is it so that good judgement comes from bad experience and a lot of that comes from bad judgement?

Answer 21

by not trusting men so much... but then i realised that gets u nowhere either.

what i have learnt is... find a guy that will love u more than you love him... that's the right balance and that's what i've learnt by jumping between the extremes of it...

Answer 22

you either like someone or you dont///you find you go in different directions

Answer 23

I have learned that some people are not always as nice as they seem on the outside. Especially when you start a relationship with them, they are always nice at the start and then the demon comes out of them, and then the person you thought you loved turns into a horrible monster that only wants to physically hurt you, and mentally scar you for the rest of your life.
So in answer to the question I have learnt not to take everyone at face value, as you always get hurt.

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personal experience when I was 16

Answer 24

no bloomin made the same mistake twice....dont get involved with married dudes...

Answer 25

shag them and leave them. woman abuse men more than what we think as they have so many rights and men dont. i like the old fashioned way of life it was so much simpler

Answer 26

You learn to look beyond the surface, and see the man or the woman beyond the persona. It's no use dating someone just because you find them physicaly attractive, if they don't have the qualities you like on the inside it will end in tears or boredom. Equally you have to find them phsicaly attractive too, don't just settle for a good man, because eventually you may be lured by someone who you find more appealing to look at. It has to be the complete package, once you find it, there will be no doubts in your mind, and then you can truly fall in love

Answer 27

I have learnt to really carefully check out a man's family. If your family cultures and ways differ vastly, it can really cause huge problems with expectations, roles within the marriage, bringing up the children etc. You think that love can conquer all this, but I believe that we all turn into versions of our parents in the end !

Answer 28

in the main yes although sometimes in the heat of the moment one forgets, thankfully one is able to pull back and reflect before it is too later and no harm is done.

Answer 29

From spending time alone. It gave me the opportunity to take a long look at myself and my choices. It takes two to damage a relationship. Sometimes we allow a behaviour, which may be unacceptable, to continue, and in doing this we become part of the problem.
The problem is never about the other person...
There is no such thing as a mistake - It's a learning experience.

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Relationships

Answer 30

I left my mistake to work in the Caribbean,came back to promises,just went back to how it used to be!!!!hey ho!!!!

Answer 31

i haven't...i've been in a few destructive relationships (including one that ended when the police got involved and a couple of totally illegal ones) and as soon as i leave one i enter another. i'm hoping that as i get older i'll learn